Date nights and not forgetting dates that happen during the day (though it doesn't have the same ring to it), I feel are important to keep a relationship fresh. I have been with the lover for over two years now which, is going to be the longest relationship I have ever been in (I'm not any good at them you see). In a relationship, life can easily fall into the trap of a routine. Going to work, come home, have dinner, watch a couple of episodes of Brooklyn 99, go to bed ( maybe indulge in a bit of sexy time if you have some energy plus being in the mood in the first place) then falling asleep. I know life is about routine, doing day to day things (Dave is a creature of habit) but I'm the opposite.
He understands that I am different and say’s that I’m fickle maybe I am, though I would say that I like to be spontaneous. Luckily Dave goes with the flow, when I say that I want to do something on the weekend. Last Saturday I convinced Dave that going to Birmingham would be a fun idea. To visit a city, that we both haven't gone to before (well Dave has technically but only for work purposes though) than me always choosing London as a destination (as I love going back to my home town). Well I have to say I'm so glad we went. I can't believe I waited until I was 29 to visit this amazing city. I have to point out, that this date night was probably one of the most expensive ones we have done, but it was worth it.
It was nice being a couple somewhere different, being able to have quality time in a different environment. I really enjoy exploring, while Dave is definitely the opposite, but he even said that walking around a new city was fun (this was also while we were walking around the shops, which in the beginning of our relationship he wasn't a fan of shopping at all).
I constantly worry about our relationship going stale with nothing to look forward to. To stop my anxiety around this, I tend to book things like going to the theatre or booking to go to a festival. These things can get expensive, but I think making memories and sharing your interests with your partner can make you feel closer to your better half.
Date nights doesn't always have to mean going out, spending loads of dosh that you don't have (well I'm speaking for myself). I know some people like this thing called walking, which is where people go to a nice manor house, local park, woodlands or green space and walk around admiring the pretty scenery while burning off some calories. I personally like going on date days like that as it's nice being out and about, plus sometimes there aren't so many people are around (I am not thinking about getting frisky out in public, but if that's your thing why not) it's just nice not being around so many random people. You can even do something together at home (well it can lead to that as well) but I am talking about like cooking a meal together, learning a new recipe or do a bit of baking. The closest we got to cooking as a couple is Dave stirring the chicken pieces to make the fajitas. Dave isn't a fan of cooking, he even asks if I need help when cooking a evening meal, but he hopes that I say no which most of the time I do .On a occasion I say yes, then he complains when I ask him to peel potatoes which he hates doing.
We like to also like to go and grab lunch at either Nandos or Turtle Bay (lucky we live really close to the city centre) so it's like a 5 minute walk, which also gets us out the flat. There have been many occasions where we have spent literally the whole weekend indoors, except one or two trips to Morrison's. Dave is very content gaming away all weekend. Don't get me wrong, it is good to have some down time and able to do what we enjoy seperately, but I do think it can get really dull if you don't have any plans at all. Being able to get out for a couple of hours, beats slobbing out on the sofa binge watching the latest season on Netflix (which I have to say I love to do, but isn't very productive).