So at the age of twenty nine, I to have say I’m not gutted to be single.Though no relationship is perfect plus being in a relationship can be hard work, being single I feel these days is even harder. There are always pros and cons of being in a relationship and being single, but I can safely say that I am content being in a relationship.
How do I come to this conclusion, well watching Love Island of course. Yes, I watch the show that people either love or hate. I can say that I enjoy watching the show because, gone are the days when I had gossip to share with the girls and there was drama about a boy every other week. Yes I know it isn’t a good reason to why I watch the show, but it is a guilty pleasure of mine.
While watching the show, I have come to realise that people are so quick to change their mind on a person, when someone new comes in. The dating game is a minefield. Yes I know it is different as they are stuck in a villa, plus it is a game show but they have the same emotions and feelings as all of us do.
It feels so intense and most of the people in the villa, have admitted that they don’t like to talk about their emotions. Who really likes talking about how they are feeling? Even if you don’t it will be difficult for a relationship to work, as being in a relationship is a two way street. It is so hard to put yourself out there. The fear of rejection, or the fact the person who you are attracted to may not feel the same way (Amy and Curtis for example).
I remember the days, where I would keep my feelings to myself about a bloke because I didn’t want to be rejected. That never worked anyways, as I would be so cringe. I would probably get drunk and tell the bloke anyways. Or the fact I was so obvious about how I felt, they would know anyway. Rejection is a very very hard pill to swallow, but I think everyone goes through rejection at least once in their life. If you haven’t well I would love to know your secret!
Getting involved with another human is a difficult thing to do in the first place. Letting someone in, being open with someone is tough. When dating you have to be willing to open up, plus you don’t know if the other person is dating other people too. That’s when it gets even more tricky.
I count myself lucky that me and Dave were friends first and that our relationship developed. If we were both dating other people, who can say we would be together now. We both told each other that weren’t talking to other people,which made it a lot more simple for us to say let’s be together. It isn’t always that easy, especially when people use dating apps like tinder and POF. As you can see that I am out of the loop of all these new dating apps! I got confused talking to like eight blokes on one app, god knows what people do who have like twenty people on the go. It must be exhausting. I think some people are greedy, they want to have their cake and want eat it too.
To think of myself single now I wouldn’t know what to bloody do, if I had to go back out there and date! Watching shows like Love Island, make me really appreciate my relationship with the other half. It also reminds me that dating in this day and age is definitely not an easy game to play.