Stress! We hear it all the time. “I’m stressed out because of work” “ I’m stressed out because of life in general” “ I’m stressed out as I don’t have money and there’s so much I need to pay out for”. I could go on. The thing is there are times when I try my hardest to try and not stress myself out. But this week I have let rip and now I have calmed down I feel like a total twat!
If I actually step back, take a deep breathe and actually take a minute to actually think rationally, life isn’t all that bad! I just hate the feeling of not being in control and being mugged off ( that’s my ego which I need to keep in check all the time). The feeling of not being in control can be frustrating, which then leads me to feel anxious, which then leads me to overthink, then I start to feel nauseous and then I’m a nightmare to be around!
To be honest I’m not great at taking my own advice, or actually take on suggestions that I tell even residents where I work. I can easily say “things work out in the end” “try and do some mindfulness” “ I know it’s hard at the moment but you will get through it”. Do I listen to myself of course not! Instead I let me emotions take over and nine out of ten times I cry.
When a friend feels stressed out and feeling stuck I can easily talk with them, try to put things into action on situations they can control and say that the parts that they can’t control, well things seem to work out in the end. You would think I would actually do what I say to others, but normally it isn’t the case. Well sometimes, maybe like the day after. But when I’m in the moment, I can be like a bull in a china shop and I’m not going to listen to what anyone has to say. What can I say I’m stubborn!
The thing is being stressed out get’s you nowhere. It’s easy to say don’t get stressed out, but thinking about it anxiety and stress are linked together. Anxiety is a pain in the arse and if I didn’t get anxiety, getting stressed out wouldn’t be such a problem. The way I see it is that yes I get anxiety, and it’s a feeling which can make life feel unbearable, but that is the time I need to get myself out of my head and focus on the positives than the negatives. It’s so much easier to think negative than to think positive. I know I get jump straight on the negativity “oh poor me my life is so stressful” “ I have had enough” “why me”. God just typing that I sound so dramatic, I want to slap myself across the face!
Stress I know doesn’t do me any good and looking back at the times when I thought bad things will never stop coming, they stopped in end. The situations that I felt powerless and felt that I couldn’t get through it, I did in time. Things do work out in the end, sometimes not in the way you want it to but it does in the end.
I know that I need to take a deep breathe, try and stay in the moment, not jump to conclusions and to remind myself stop being such a stressy bitch! Plus actually use the advice I give to others!